February 12, 2010

  • Valentines Day

    I'm pretty good at working hard to accomplish a goal.  I often excel at task-oriented activities and completing lists of things...kind of a "worker bee", if you will (this is why I am great with deadlines and finite/concrete ideas).  In addition, my obsessive nature, passion, care for others, and the burden I have to fulfill my purpose for being on this earth makes me a good leader. 

    But I stink at giving gifts.

    I'm HORRIBLE at it, in fact.

    And I just want to take this opportunity to apologize for past and future failures in this area TO THE WHOLE WORLD.

    I can't tell you what it is about me that makes giving gifts so difficult...it is probably a combination of not knowing what one wants,  not having the judgment and foreknowledge to ascertain what one might like as a gift,  and therefore feeling like my gift might "miss the mark" by a hundred miles.   I'm sure we all can break this down psychologically for a long time...but let's just say I STINK AT IT. 

    And my poor wife has to deal with it the most out of anybody.  I finally gave her a birthday present this past Monday (her bday is in early December) and I accidentally skipped one  Christmas entirely for her...

    And don't even get me started on my immediate family...my poor, poor, family.  (SORRY MOM AND DAD! and brothers and sisters...)

    (hanging my head in shame)

    I did OK this Christmas because I just up and ASKED Christy what she wanted...and then went immediately out to get it. (I also took the kids shopping for her a couple of times, to attempt to break this sad cycle of gift-giving failure).

    Well, this weekend is Valentines Day...and I planned ahead.
    FINALLY.

    So tonight we will celebrate some time away from the kids on a special date...and celebrate our love. 

    So listen up:

    TO ALL THE DUDES OUT THERE:

    Treat your ladies RIGHT this weekend!!! If you're in a relationship, Valentines day IS A BIG DEAL to the ladies.  I've experienced some v-day FAILs before, and it's no good. 
    It doesn't have to be expensive or fancy, it just has to be loving and thoughtful.  So TREAT 'EM RIGHT. 

    And don't be a bad gift giver like me.
    You'll never live it down.

Comments (6)

  • All those special days are important to us - birthday, anniversary, V-Day, Mother's Day (if you're a mom).  But you're totally right.  I don't care about expensive or fancy, just thoughtful.  :o )  So congratulations, Daniel, on thinking & planning ahead!  I'm trying to take my hubby out for a surprise date tonight, too.

  • Then I sure hope Christy's love language isn't gift-getting!  Ha! :)   Glad to hear you're on the way to a healthy recovery. :)   I find the secret to good gift giving is ALWAYS thinking ahead.

  • @klappyanne - oh--her love language isn't gift-getting, but as she's informed me over the years, it IS the following:

    1) Breakfast in bed (this is a new one after this past weekend)

    2) Eating out (which we don't do much anymore except on weekends in SD)

    3) Backrubs

    4) Watching TV

    but I don't seeeeeeeem to remember any of those on the original list of 7 love languages...hmmm....

  • My husband ALWAYS forgot my birthday for 15 years, then came 9-11. My birthday is Sept 11...now he remembers it every year. 

  • @lovinmama53 - oh goodness!!!! that's crazy...

  • WORDS OF AFFIRMATION!!!!!!

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