October 7, 2010
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Our Best Habit (Thanks, Addison Road)
I believe in marriage. I believe in commitment and faithfulness, and I KNOW that you have to WORK on it for it to work. Christy and I are coming up on 11 years of marriage, so I have me a little experience in these things…a little.
One of the guys over at Addison Road recently posted a great blog about what he and his wife do in order to get some alone time on a regular basis. You can click over to the original post, or just read it below.
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(Originally posted by Mike Lee on Addison Road)
I got an email from a friend today, and it started me thinking about the things we do that build relationships, particularly marriage relationships. We’re in that stage where kids and careers are stealing away time from just the two of us, and we have to be more “on purpose” with almost everything in our lives.
So, here’s the big questions: what’s one thing you do, one habit or ritual, that builds up your relationship with your significant other.
Gretchen and I have struggled for years to figure out how to get regular time together. Date nights are great, but they end up being more expensive than we can really afford right now. Instead, we do a once-a-week “Late Dinner”. We feed the kids crap food at 5, let them have a movie night until 8, then one of use gets them to bed and the other starts cooking. We cook good food, we relax with no time pressure, and we talk in the kitchen while we do it. We sit down at maybe 8:30 or later, and we have a slow dinner. No kids, no distractions, just time to sit and talk.
It’s a new ritual, but so far, I think it’s our best habit. And it’s on my mind because I’m missing it tonight for a crap gig. Sorry, love.
What’s your best habit?
Comments (4)
I absolutely LOVE the idea of “late dinner.” I think my husband and I need to start adopting it. Our date nights are definitely few and far between. We just found out last week that our son, who will be 3 in December, has autism. I am so afraid that somehow down the road we are going to become just another statistic of failed marriages of parents with an autistic kid- isn’t it nearly 80% ending in divorce?! Any other entries about how two godly parents of an autistic kid make their marriage work would be greatly appreciated
@MelodicPuppy - It is not, and will never be easy! But one thing that sets you apart from the other parents out there is the fact that you have Jesus as your ROCK. The Foundation of your life and your marriage. When you lean on Him, and realize that your life, and the life of your dear, sweet baby boy Jeremiah is in HIS HANDS–you won’t worry. You just trust. God formed Jeremiah in your womb–and knew him before his life began–and He has a plan for him. It’s a LOT to take in all right now, but dude—we need to talk soon…we can help. Our son just turned 7–was diagnosed with autism exactly 5 years ago–but you’d never know it now. And we can help you wade through all the crap that there is to deal with, and get appropriate help for your child.
Call me. Or email me. Or find me on facebook. Or email me from my website
http://www.danielsemsen.com
we’re friends on FB, right???
My info is on there…for real though–Christy and I would love to help.
@dsemsen - Any and all help and support would be great!! I don’t believe we’re friends on facebook… my email address to search me on is erin.e.castillo@gmail.com I know that with God our family will get through this…somewhere there has to be a light at the end of the tunnel!
I can’t wait to see what plan God has for my precious son
@MelodicPuppy - ok…we’re friends now! So if you have questions, send them my way. You aren’t going to be a bother. PROMISE.