September 20, 2008

  • The Womens–Movie Review #4,515,162,342

    After seeing a slew of movies that were clearly my pick–and none of them being “chick flicks”–it was time for Christy’s turn to choose.

    So, of course, we saw “The Women”.

    The Gimmick
    Not bad. This movie included a cast a fabulous actresses. Old timers, hotties, the seasoned, and everything in between. All girls.
    But it wasn’t that all the leads/main characters were women…no…ALL the people in the ENTIRE FILM were women.
    I’m talking about extras, cast…everyone…was…female. There was nary a man in sight.
    Only in the last 5 minutes of the movie do we see our first glimpse of a man–in the form of a baby boy that has just been born.


    Side note:
    Debra Messing giving birth was worth the whole movie. She was hilarious–and the scene felt akin to that time Steve Carell got his chest waxed. FUNNY.

    So I get it. No men.
    No men anywhere.

    It was only slightly off-putting to see an entire New York City block shot from a wide angle with all females walking around. But I get it.

    Unrealistic?
    Yes.
    A kinda cool gimmick?
    Also yes.

    The Performances
    Excellent. Candice Bergin, Diane Lane, Debra Messing, and a whole bunch of ladies did a bang-up job in the film. A truly excellent cast.
    But the real award goes to longtime leading lady Meg Ryan.
    I haven’t seen her light up a film like this since…since…well…I CAN’T REMEMBER! It’s been SO long since she’s totally kicked bootaay in a leading role, and she DID in this one. Help me out here people…when was her last great female lead? The mid-90′s?
    Anywho–she did a stellar job. Nicely done. It was a little bit like John Travolta’s Pulp Fiction comeback. I feel like she might start working again, and the audiences won’t be so sick of her now.

    The Production
    Nothing to complain about.
    Great editing–great soundtrack…really–no complaints.

    The Message
    Every movie–like it or not–has a message.
    I have found that every time the credits begin to roll on a movie I’ve just seen for the first time, I immediately ask myself the same question, “So, what is the message this movie is trying to send? What am I taking away here?” Because every movie has something…

    The Happening was about being nice to our environment (or the plants will kill you with poison leaf-gasses–in horrible ways, I might add)
    Children of Men was about hope–and the chaos that ensues when people have nothing to hope for
    The Incredibles was about family
    …and I could name a thousand more…

    So what was this movie about? Well…I was a tad annoyed, to say the least.
    Here’s what I learned from watching The Women:

    1) Finding out that your spouse is cheating on you is hurtful, but cool, because, you know–everyone does it. And although it stinks, it’s probably much better to keep it all quiet so as not to embarrass yourself or your family. Just try to ignore it altogether, but I guess if you must, confront your spouse and get a divorce. Cause you know, that’s just how it goes.

    2) When the chips are down, and it seems like you’ve made all the bad decisions by trying to be “a good person”–screw that. The only person that gets anything in this life is the person that thinks about themselves first. So stop worrying about your family or any charitable work and just focus on YOU. That’s all that matters in this life. What YOU want, and what is best for YOU. You, you, you.

    3) Even though this road of self-absorption has alienated your closest friends and loved ones, don’t worry, cause you’ll all eventually make up and get back together. In addition, your child/children needn’t be bothered during this time because YOU are really the only thing that matters. AND!! AND!! Your kid will like you better when you look and act more successful anyways. So again, go for it. Do what’s best for you.

    4) Life stinks–unless you focus on the things you want and the things that make you happy. If friends and family figure into that, then cool, but if not–it’s OK. As long as you’re happy.

    5) Affairs are normal. Everyone has one. And they probably just mean nothing to your spouse so try to forget about it and move on.

    ARE YOU FREAKING KIDDING ME?!?!?!

    I honestly was aghast at how messed up we all are if what this movie is saying really reflects our culture/society in any remote way.

    What has happened to anything good?

    What happened to commitment?
    What happened to self-discipline?
    What happened to being more committed to your spouse than anyone else in the world?
    What happened to us that we’re OK with being so selfish?

    How did these things become the norm?

    Now, I must say—I’m no right-wing-fundie. I’m not going to say we need to fight the moral values of America and stuff–I think that’s a fight that was lost generations ago and we’re a part of a society that is lost and in darkness. I mean, we’re all human and we all fail each other at given times.

    But I’ve never seen such a disregard for love and commitment. I was appalled.
    And I don’t think I would be so tuned in to this issue if I hadn’t seen a few other shows and movies recently that ALL had the exact same thing happening in them.
    Married people cheating on their spouses as a normal way of life.

    Come on folks.

    If you don’t have trust and loyalty in this life, you have nothing.

    I am a man of my word.

    I also am a man.

    So please, no more all-chick movies.

    They hurt my insides.

Comments (21)

  • LOL….the image of a guy pulling his hair out was what came to mind instantly…haha!

    I know what you mean that some movies begin with a gimmick but by the end their message is just twisted. my husband and i have had way too many of those experiences.
    In my opinion, “Sleepless in Seattle” Meg Ryan just lit up the screen and the movie was just hands down wonderful!
    Have a blessed weekend!

  • THE HAPPENING WAS NOT ABOUT BEING NICE TO THE ENVIRONMENT. Sheesh.

  • >> Now, I must say—I’m no right-wing-fundie. I’m not going to say we need to fight the moral values of America and stuff–I think that’s a fight that was lost generations ago and we’re a part of a society that is lost and in darkness. I mean, we’re all human and we all fail each other at given times. But I’ve never seen such a disregard for love and commitment. I was appalled.

    I appreciate your reaction to the film. But I have a few questions.

    - Since when is it being a “right wing fundie” to worry about the moral state of the country or the world? Is that not what all of the prophets in the Bible did? They called out sin, and they did it boldly and loudly. Is that not what the apostles did? REPENT and be baptised, every one of you… If we reach a point where we start calling each other right wing fundies because we think calling out sin is over the top or un-cool, we’ve gone too far.

    >> Now, I must say—I’m no right-wing-fundie… *But* I’ve never seen such a disregard for love and commitment. I was appalled.

    So you’re being a right wing fundie if you normally are bothered by what you see in society… BUT, once it reaches a certain point, like here with this movie for you, then it’s okay to be appalled? Please do not take this as nit-picking, because it’s not. I’m just trying to figure out your thought process on this. Isn’t it consistant to say that it’s either acceptable to be saddened and frustrated with society’s ills and immorality or it’s not acceptable? One or the other. It shouldn’t be a relative thing, where you’re being a fundie… until you reach a certain point, then it’s an acceptable reaction.

    - The fight was lost generations ago? I think we need a new perspective. Throughout history there have been ups and downs in the moral path that nations have taken. I do not believe that God calls the church to idly sit by and let those nations just sink into the toilet and not do anything about it, or not “fight the moral values,” as you put it. Especially since the path a nation is on can be changed. Look at how Israel responded to the prophets. When the nation repented, they were saved from destruction. How Ninevah responded to Noah. More recently, look at how the Great Awakenings swept across the nation. Revivals are constantly taking place around the world. There’s no reason that America couldn’t find the same thing happening here again. To say that the battle has been lost is being irresponsible with our calling, imho, and it is also a very faith-less place to stand, as it makes the assumption that the nation is beyond the grace of God.

    To be clear, I don’t think that reacting negatively to society around you is what the church should be known for. The idea of calling yourself the “moral majority’ was just plain stupid. And I am also very John Fischer-esque in my perspective, recognizing that sinners sin because they are lost, etc. But at the same time, the church is not being the church if it simply accepts moral decay as normal, doesn’t make a stand against it, and doesn’t call for repentance and change. It’s part of who we are, it’s part of the Great Commission. Why should anyone repent and accept the Gospel if they’re not doing anything wrong?

    The church should be known for its love. But it also has to be known for truth. Otherwise you’re just a happy, loving country club. Grace and truth. There’s a paradox there, and the trick is finding the right balance of both. But it still has to be both.

  • People know that affairs are morally wrong, however when movies and TV act like that is the norm, people start questioning if they are right or wrong. We need to reinforce what we have been taught all of our lives. AFFAIRS ARE WRONG!!!!! Whether you are married or just in a relationship. A relationship is about trust, and when that trust breaks down, so does a relationship.
    No men in the movie? Then how do they explain a baby?

  • @marshallismyalias - you must not have been paying attention in that movie. Were your ears closed too?
    HAHAHAHA!!

  • @MikeknaJ - 
    >>>- Since when is it being a “right wing fundie” to worry about the moral state of the country or the world?

    What did Falwell and Pat Robertson do all the time? They basically yelled at America for all of the things that were un-Christian, and thought that the yelling would “rally” Christians to “fight” against things that were morally wrong. For some reason, they felt the need to point out the atrocities of our nation with condemnation and disdain. People like that just give more cause for the lost of the world to hate us. Because…you know…we just want their money and to yell at them from our high places telling them they’re wrong. It’s just hypocrytical.

    I have too many failures to point out the failures in others. (Matt: 7:1-5).

    It’s not my job to be a Pharisee.

    I believe strongly that I will impact more lives on a local and personal level than anyone could by “standing up” for what’s wrong in the eyes of the media. Nobody trusts those characters anymore. Just look at the track record of many outspoken Christian leaders–even THIS YEAR: Joe Barron-Prestonwood. Paul Barnes-Denver.  Not to mention the throngs of Catholic priests that were charged a few years back.

    Nobody’s listening when we yell in public.

    So I DO stand up for truth–just not in the way someone my father’s age would–or my grandfather’s age.

    I stand up for truth with my church congregation–with the leaders in my worship ministry. With my choir, orchestra, and worship teams. But I’m not going to go yell at America for being sinful. We are. And I frankly would accomplish MUCH LESS if I dedicated my life to that pursuit.

    Think about it–go read a study–people of this generation are much more apt to respond to the invitation of a friend to go to church (someone they know and have a relationship with) than they would to respond to anything said by a televangelist, or someone guest-starring on The View.

    That’s my perspective, anyway.

  • Thanks for the reply.

    > What did Falwell and Pat Robertson do all the time? They basically yelled at America for all of the things that were un-Christian, and thought that the yelling would “rally” Christians to “fight” against things that were morally wrong.

    You’ll noticed I mentioned that I thought the Moral Majority was the wrong way to go, and certainly is not an example of good practice or theory.

    I think you’re making a mistake by taking the worst examples of some Christian behavior and using that to back up your agument. There are plenty of other examples of people who did not go to the extremes that a Falwell or Robertson did. Billy Graham is the obvious one to point out. Millions of lives have come to Christ through his ministry.

    >I have too many failures to point out the failures in others. (Matt: 7:1-5). It’s not my job to be a Pharisee.

    If you take that line of thinking to its logical extent, no one could ever call someone to repentence, because we all are sinners (and I am the worst of them, just as Paul stated). But that’s not what Jesus called us to do. He commissioned us to preach the gospel to all the world – and part of the Gospel is calling for repentence from sin. It is not being a Pharisee to do that. That’s a false characterization. Being a Pharisee would be to pretend that you did not have those failures while pointing them out in others. That’s where the hypocrisy comes in.

    But that’s certainly not what I was espousing the church do. The church should have a prophetic voice in society – but it should not be doing it w/o a holier than thou, we are perfect and sinless unlike you, attitude. It should be done w/ an attitude of humility and transparency about our fagile state as well. That’s the difference. We share the Gospel and we stand for truth – because we know how that truth can transform – not because we’re better than you or morally superior to you but because we are just as in need of a saviour as anyone else and have been blessed enough to experience His grace.

    >I believe strongly that I will impact more lives on a local and personal level than anyone could by “standing up” for what’s wrong in the eyes of the media. Nobody trusts those characters anymore. Just look at the track record of many outspoken Christian leaders–even THIS YEAR: Joe Barron-Prestonwood. Paul Barnes-Denver.  Not to mention the throngs of Catholic priests that were charged a few years back.

    Again, that’s really a bad line of thinking to go down. There is nothing wrong with being a Christian leader in the public eye. The problems would start if such a person began to believe the hype and buy into the idea that they were actually spiritually superior. But such a person who retained an attitude of humility and walked in grace would be a shining example of Christ to the world (ie. the way Rick Warren conducts himself these days).

    > Nobody’s listening when we yell in public.

    So don’t yell.

    >I stand up for truth with my church congregation–with the leaders in my worship ministry. With my choir, orchestra, and worship teams. But I’m not going to go yell at America for being sinful. We are. And I frankly would accomplish MUCH LESS if I dedicated my life to that pursuit.

    Again, so don’t yell. You’re building a strawman there because I’m certainly not arguing for that.

    But to apply your previous comments here, aren’t you setting yourself up for the fall, just on a smaller scale? You’re taking on the role of Christian leadership, only doing it w/ your church and your choir and friends, rather than on a larger state-wide or national scale. The same principles could still apply, regardless of the size of your platform. The answer is obviously that what you are doing is not wrong, and there’s nothing wrong with being a pastor or being in Christian leadership. There’s always risk involved there, and Christian leaders have a higher level of responsibility because they are in a role where people look up to them. That doesn’t change, regardless of the size of your audience, whether it’s small group leader, choir director, youth pastor, senior pastor, senior pastor of a big church. pastor of a mega church, evangelist, pastor of a mega church who writes a book that becomes popular nationally, pastor who becomes a nationally known figure, or pastor who becomes known world-wide.

    Also, I’m not arguing that you, necessarily, should be doing anything different. I was arguing the principle in a more general sense. You are more than likely doing what God calls you to do where he wants you to be. I’m not saying we all should be Billy Grahams. I certainly never could be. We all have different gifts and different roles. I am saying, though, that a role in a more public eye is not wrong and shouldn’t be swatted down as being a “right wing fundie” automatically just because a person takes a stand on a moral principle.

    What if Entertainment Weekly called you up and asked for your opinion, as a Christian who wants to be in the arts, of the movie The Women. Should you give them a straight answer? What if they found your blog and quoted you in their magazine. Are you being a right wing fundie because you dared to state your opinion in a platform that is theoretically accessible to anyone in the world?

    I go back to my previous reply. There are very clear instances where God calls the church, and specific people in the church, to act in a prophetic manner. Througout the Old Testament and on through history to recent times in our country and in other places in the world today. That is undeniably biblical.

    > Think about it–go read a study–people of this generation are much more apt to respond to the invitation of a friend to go to church (someone they know and have a relationship with) than they would to respond to anything said by a televangelist, or someone guest-starring on The View.

    Evangelism takes on many forms. It should never be assumed that only one method should be used. Also, I’m not only talking about evangelism. Prophets in the Bible had a different role than Evangelists. I think that such prophetic voices have a role today just as much as they did in Biblical times.

    So, just to clarify, I’m certainly not advocating yelling, or beating someone on the head with a Bible, or being Jerry Falwell, or anything else to that extreme. But at the same time, I am saying that it’s wrong to dismiss the idea of taking a stand for morality as being a “right wing fundie.” It’s biblical to do that. 

    The difference, and what is important, would be your methods, I guess. Avoid the yelling, as you so aptly point out. But something in the middle, yeah, that’s a good thing, imho. And it’s part of our responsibility as the church. We are to be salt and light. On a personal, inter-relational level. But also in society as a whole.

    I don’t agree with the idea that greater public awareness and using a mass platform is bad. Using Rick Warren, again, as an example, he does a very effective job when he goes on places like Larry King to give a Christian perspective on an issue or a crisis. And I believe that it’s a powerful tool. You mentioned the View – and it certainly can be a ridiculous show. But The View also affects its viewers – people are influenced and swayed by the voices they hear on TV, whether it’s The View, Fox News, Meet the Press, Entertainment Tonight, or Letterman. So when a guy like Warren is able to aptly and effectively use that same platform for good, and to spread God’s Truth in love, that is something to be admired.

  • > And I don’t think I would be so tuned in to this issue if I hadn’t seen
    a few other shows and movies recently that ALL had the exact same thing
    happening in them. Married people cheating on their spouses as a normal way of life.

    That’s why I was so struck by Fireproof. For all of it’s artistic lackings, it was powerful to see such a dramatic 180 degree presentation of marriage where the vows were so dearly honored and struggled for, up on the big screen. It was effective and very moving.

    (and, as I think about it now, it was also a really good example of how the chuch can do what we’re discussing – take a stand for the Biblical values we espouse and live by, and show the world a better way. A good example of what you don’t want to see – yelling – but being a voice for truth using other methods and vehicles.)

  • @MikeknaJ - In my mind, when I refer to “right-wing-fundie” I’m EXACTLY talking about Pat Robertson and the Falwell types–the types of folks I wouldn’t want to ever be like.

    Rick Warren, on the other hand, I would never peg as an RWF. That dude is conservative-YES–but the best example of a Christ-follower…and one that has done a bang-up job in mass media.

    But imho, Rick Warren is not as much known for what he is AGAINST, but what he is FOR.
    He is FOR social justice in Darfur, he is FOR AIDS relief for the world, FOR aid to those in poverty…

    Case in point: Obama/McCain interviews. He was a master at that.

    I don’t think of Rick Warren as a RWF…or myself, for that matter.

    I’m also not anti-evangelism…

  • > In my mind, when I refer to “right-wing-fundie” I’m EXACTLY talking about Pat Robertson and the Falwell types–the types of folks I wouldn’t want to ever be like.

    So this discussion is just about semantics???? Dang.

    Right-wing fundie means different things, I guess. To you to means what you just wrote. To others, it can refer to any Christian with values that are remotely conservative, regardless of how they conduct themselves. You might not peg Warren as an RWF, but others easily do. But I’m glad we have that clarified, so I understand you better now.

    > Rick Warren, on the other hand, I would never peg as an RWF. That dude is
    conservative-YES–but the best example of a Christ-follower…and one that has done a bang-up job in mass media.

    But that goes against your argument above, where you were railing against Christians being in the limelight in general, because of the track record you saw with certain leaders who had fallen.

    So, let me straighten this out in my head. You don’t believe it’s wrong for Christians to show leadership and be outspoken in the public eye. But it’s the way that do it that matters – how Warren conducts himself, for example, is really a good thing.

    Is that correct?

    Because if so, we really just agree with each other. (except that I still disagree w/ your comment about this society being so lost that the fight is over).

    > But imho, Rick Warren is not as much known for what he is AGAINST, but what he is FOR. He is FOR social justice in Darfur, he is FOR AIDS relief for the world, FOR aid to those in poverty…

    True and, again, I also admire him greatly. Though I will point out that if you read left-wing blogs and websites published by non-Christians, they still have plenty of ammo against Warren and of the stuff they hate about him and the stances he takes – even though he certainly does focus more on what he is for than what he is against. They were *really* unhappy w/ him after the Saddleback Forum, in spite of the admirable job he did… (And to them, he is a prime example of a right wing fundie.)

  • WHAT ARE YOU GUYS TALKING ABOUT?  Mike.  It was an introduction phrase to a great paragraph that illustrates that Daniel does not like seeing people have affairs.  You are obviously in a nit-picking mood.  There is no difference in opinion…or at least not in the blog’s original statement .  He simply said he wasn’t a right wing fundie to give context to those who don’t know his position.  Period.  Like he said, he was essentially intro-ing his point to say “I’m not like Pat Robertson, by the way, but here are my opinions.”  Stop trying to find things to fight about and go out and live these things that you talk about.

    Go find a church and actually be a PART of the community that Jesus called Christians to be part of.  Stop standing on the sidelines and complaining (which sounds like yelling online) and go do the things Jesus called us to do. Go and work out your salvation- whatever that may be.  Find a ministry aside from work.  We may do it on a small scale with a few hundred people, others do it with millions, others to it with a few.  Or if you’re not into organized church, find a small group that is Bible based and do what Jesus called us to do in that way.  It would be easier to believe what you said if it wasn’t only theory.  Your words would, frankly, have more weight.

     There are no lone ranger Christians and part of the reason that God put that in place was to give us humans checks and balances as we seek to know Him better together. There’s a lot of knowledge that you have that I think is just dying to get out there, as evidenced by nit-picking stupid points.  He wasn’t saying that standing for truth is being a right wing fundie.  He simply said he wasn’t a right wing fundie, and then made some great points about the disturbing message of a movie.  Great thing to fight.  Go use that energy in a positive way, man.

    There are major more important things to do than to fight about tiny points with someone that believes the same as you.  And  before you find some obscure phrase in here to fight- hear my main question:  do you believe it is optional for Christians to be in fellowship with other believers (church)?  Do you have something against the church or organized ministry?  Enlighten me with a new theology on THIS point if you want to fight something.  And I will test it and pray about it and consider it, as I like to do all different points of view.  For clarification- the rebuttal topic is the CHURCH of Jesus Christ. Go.

  • @MikeknaJ
    >>>>So, let me straighten this out in my head.
    You don’t believe it’s wrong for Christians to show leadership and be
    outspoken in the public eye.

    I never said it was wrong for Christians to be outspoken. I just don’t believe we are called to condemn the world. Jesus didn’t come to condemn the world, He came to save it. And although he was a tad outspoken, it was never in mass public arenas. AND when He was before the mass public (with Pilate/Herod, etc…) He was silent.

    I’m just saying…we are imperfect. And there have been a LOT of “Christians” that have gone before the media and (again imho) brought shame to themselves and the reputation of the church. This is sad. And yes–I love Rick Warren and the way he has become a conservative leader for a new generation–but I don’t clump him into the category of “right-wing-fundie”. He is a new type of conservative. And awesome.

  • I wasn’t nitpicking stupid points. I certainly wasn’t attacking him or trying to “fight.” I was just questioning his thoughts and ideas behind a certain portion of what he blogged about, because his thought process on that particular subject interested me. I rarely ever try and dig deeper like that here – I usually just leave joke comments – but that’s what blogs and comments can be for so I did this time. He made a passing statement and I wanted to talk more about it. Because I care about what he thinks. How is that a bad thing? (It happens to me all the time.)

    I even stated: “Please do not take this as nit-picking, because it’s not. I’m just trying to figure out your thought process on this.”

    At any rate, I thought it was an interesting conversation and I really enjoyed getting his reaction and commentary. I, again, was not nitpicking and certainly hope that it wasn’t taken in that manner. As you should know, I like to think about things, and I like to understand how other people think about things. It’s just part of who I am. And discussion is supposed to be what blogs are all about; comments don’t always stick to the theme of the blog entry.

    That being said, if you’re upset that I may have distracted from the overall point of his post about the film, I apologize – his points and thoughts on the film itself were great.

    > do you believe it is optional for Christians to be in fellowship with other believers (church)?

    No.

  • > I never said it was wrong for Christians to be outspoken. I just don’t believe we are called to condemn the world. Jesus didn’t come to condemn the world, He came to save it.

    Absolutely.

    > I’m just saying…we are imperfect.

    Believe me, I know.

    Sorry if you thought I was nitpicking you. That wasn’t my intent at all. And I appreciated your replies and the dialogue.

    BTW. Are you going to watch the Emmys? Do you have your DVR set? Because it’s going to be awesome w/ the reality show hosts hosting, I think. Very different, at least. Jeff Probst is the man.

  • @MikeknaJ - the challenge is OK. It challenges me to think my ideas all the way through. I’m not offended and don’t worry about it.

    crap. I forgot about the emmys. DANGIT!!!

  • If we are nitpicking, Ninevah responded to Jonah not Noah. :)

  • Daniel – thanks for the movie review…you DO get extra bonus points for even going to SEE that movie as a man!!  Sounds like you need to watch Fireproof after all that…

    And I agree about the media (in general) leaning toward this whole “affairs are normal” thing.  Yuck.  When was the last time we saw a happy couple portrayed on TV??  7th Heaven??

  • Thanks for the movie review.  It was one I was kinda interested in seeing, but I won’t waste my time now. 

  • Very interesting movie review. I might just go see it now. (Also a very interesting theological discussion that followed.)

    By the by, I love the term “right-wing fundie”. Hubby and I call them the Fuddy Duddy Buddies…don’t ask.

  • I guess God was listening to a lot of this dialog. There is a new movie coming to the theaters on 9/26 concerning marriage. It stars Kirk Cameron. He is even sensitive enough that in the scenes where he is to kiss his stage wife, they do the scene in silhouette and bring in his own wife to do the scene. The movie is called Fireproof.

    Go to http://www.fireproofmymarriage.com/ to find out more about it.

  • It’s yet another movie pandering to teh womynz, but that may just be the result of a bad marketing firm.  It has an all-star cast, it was written and directed by women, so no gimmicks there.  Wait!  What’s this?  Producer: Mick Jagger?  What’s going on here? 

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